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hamza_tm

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Re: Be friendly
« on: September 03, 2012, 05:57:34 pm »
I completely agree with Aero, and personally I was about to start a thread of my own for this very reason.

I don't normally bring up issues that have cooled down, but a particular incident a few days ago has actually resulted in driving a helpful member away from the forums (I spoke to him via PM), and I don't want something like this to happen again. I understand that this is probably going to create an argument and more conflict temporarily, but bear with me, I am sure that from posting this afterwards certain wrong habits will be brought to light and the forum will be made a better place.

So damn straight I am going to bring this up right here so that people can learn from past mistakes, and possibly have the decency to feel ashamed/apologize.

A new member called Merlon who has posted many bugs and given his time and effort to TCO was treated in a manner that is, frankly, disgusting. A simple angry outburst is forgivable, you could apologize and that's that. Not only did this forumer insult Merlon again, but another esteemed member of the forum joined in the insults, and started encouraging him as well.

And another new member Croco who spoke out against the injustice was also verbally attacked without right. I don't want to name and shame but the people responsible know who they are and I personally think they should sort themselves out.

The worst part is that there were no apologies made. Rather Merlin and Croco simply stopped replying and that was how the argument didn't continue.

I spoke to one of those who are responsible for this bad behaviour, and I believe he understands that what he did was wrong (I hope so) but I believe there are apologies to be made in public to set things right.

If anyone thinks I am speaking unjustly, I invite them to please read over what was said in that incident from a neutral perspective. I would quote the kind of phrases used here, but there is little need.

Can I just make another thing very clear no one is under any kind of compulsion to contribute to these forums. If someone joins just to congratulate Aero and then leaves then that is their right. If someone joins to point out a bug and leaves then that is their right (and tbh they should be thanked for bothering). People can do as they wish as long as they don't break the rules. Calling people who don't stay for longer than one post "fanboys" is just being elitist. It isn't a good thing.

If you disagree I have no problem with that, but feel free to point out your reasoning.